We humans always seem to focus on the extremes, especially when it comes to how we feel about ourselves. Instead of seeking (and maintaining) a healthy balance, we seem to end up either gorging our egos on shallow adulation and unearned praise or poisoning them with constant self-loathing and relentless abuse. Then we let social media do its part by amplifying whatever pendulum-swing of mania we happen to be suffering and make things even worse.

Breaking up with a toxic partner can be an emotionally devastating experience. You might feel discarded and alone after putting so much effort into your relationship. However, your feelings don't define you. With the right strategies for self-care, you can overcome the pain of a destructive partnership and come out stronger than before.

If you're ready to begin your journey toward healing after a toxic partner, here are a few tips to help you with your healing journey.

As February approached, thoughts of Valentine’s Day came to mind. I started thinking about all of the familiar stories seen – we all know the ones: A list of what you and your special someone can do on that special day, complete with photos of a couple looking so much in love. Sharing kisses, hugs, flowers and candy.