Quick + Easy Sexual Health Tips to Spice up Your Love Life with Sexpert, Heather Florio, of Desert Harvest

Heather Florio is the second-generation owner and CEO of Desert Harvest, a medical-grade evidence-based aloe vera-focused company and manufacturer of pelvic health tools. Heather is deeply woven into the realms of sexual health, pelvic health, women’s health issues, urological issues, oncology health issues and more. For nearly thirty years, Desert Harvest has been an advocate for change in women’s healthcare through medical research and product innovation. In better learning and understanding our own bodies, we can become our own best advocates and experts for healing.

Desert Harvest shares tips to spice up your love life and to help you celebrate love in its many forms. FYI, we don’t need a partner to feel sexy or have an orgasm!

COMMUNICATION & EXPERIMENTATION 

The truth is, love like sexuality lives on a multi-planed spectrum that is constantly changing and evolving as we mature and experiment throughout life. So, experiment! Many couples who have been partnered for years feel as if they have lost that spark when oftentimes we mistake a lack of spice and spark with perhaps an outdated or simply old version of our sex lives. While it can feel vulnerable and uncomfortable to speak our sexual desires and fantasies even with our closest partners, herein lies the secret to keeping it spicy, new, and exciting. Start communicating and exploring ideas of what you want your sex life to look like. Experiment with positions, toys, lingerie, and costumes. You may be surprised to hear that your partners are game for what you are dreaming up. 

IS YOUR LUBE KEEPING UP WITH YOUR SEX LIFE?

Aging doesn’t have to mean a lower libido or vaginal dryness. Often, it’s these factors that can make us feel less confident and insecure in the bedroom. When we aren’t feeling good, it's harder to feel sexy and confident in our own bodies. Personal lubrication will likely be a welcome addition to the bedroom. Just be sure that your lube is pH-balanced and iso-osmolar to help prevent any further dryness and irritation, like our  Aloe Glide, formulated to match the pH of the delicate vaginal tissue, or our Bum Bumz, optimized for anal tissue. 

SEX DOESN’T HAVE TO MEAN PENETRATION 

What about sexual intercourse with pelvic pain and other symptoms that might make penetration difficult or painful? Dyspareunia, or painful sex occurring before, during, or after intercourse can put a lot of pressure on your sex life and relationships when your performance doesn’t look the way you think it should. But, intimacy is something that looks different to everyone you ask. For some, the act of physical intimacy defines sex, while for others, an orgasm may not even involve touch. Don’t put pressure on yourself to be something you are not. If you are dealing with chronic pain, get creative. Remember the brain is the most erotic zone of the body!

FOREPLAY, FOREPLAY, FOREPLAY!

Quickies are great, but if you are consistently disappointed by the lack of lift-off, you may benefit from more play. The great news is that this gets to look like whatever you want it to – that arousal can begin far before you even make it to the bedroom. Try sexting your partner pre-date, or teasing them with touch. 

Going solo? You get to experiment with all the ways you can turn yourself on. It can be empowering to learn and then be able to teach future partners how to please you best. Orgasms are great, but making it last is part of the fun and pleasure. 

CONSENT IS SEXY

Last and certainly not least, remember - consent is the sexiest thing in the bedroom. Trust and respect are pillars that make any relationship blossom and last. The more we have these conversations and remove taboos and judgment, the more we can feel safe and empowered and show up as our truest selves in our sex lives and beyond.

For more on Desert Harvest, visit https://www.desertharvest.com