By Geraldine “Gerry” Viggiani

In so many ways it is tragic that I need to write about becoming an ally to the LBGTQIA+ (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, intersex, queer/ questioning, asexual+) community. That said, even though there has been more and more acceptance in social media, television, and the movies, and even in everyday life, systemic prejudice still runs rampant. Pride Month came about to bring the plight of these communities into awareness as well as spark solidarity and support, but this is only the tipping point of what is needed to bring about the level of change all throughout the year that is needed.

Bullying, heckling, harassment, social isolation, familial rejection, and even violence are just some of the challenges that plague the LGBTQIA+ person. In addition, the current political climate, with its anti-LBGTQIA+ legislation, have proposed to roll back rights that were previously won. A sampling of this includes the “Don’t Say Gay or Trans” bill inFlorida, as well as a bill that would limit transgender youth by restricting access to participation in school sports, anti- same-sex marriage campaigns, and restricted access to some transition-related care.

People who are Black, indigenous, and people of color (BIPOC) face additional discrimination through racism. These scenarios create a chronic form of psychological stress due to constantly facing a lack of acceptance, fear of violence, and discrimination, which can significantly impact one’s long-term physical and mental health.

To gain a sense of affirmation and safety, the community needs allies to further acceptance, advocate for civil rights, and provide positive personal connections at home, school, socially, politically, and environmentally. Allies are people both straight, cis gender (a term used to describe a person whose gender identity aligns with those typically associated with the sex assigned to them at birth), or within the community who are supporters and defenders of the gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer, questioning, asexual, and intersex+ community.

How can you become an ally of the LGBTQIA+ community? Here are just a few ways.

Learn the Language

Familiarize yourself with the proper terms when speaking with someone from the community. It not only shows respect, but the effort you are making at educating yourself feels affirming. There are many online glossaries that include appropriate terminology. SAIGE - Society for Sexual, Affectional, Intersex, and Gender Expansive Identities has a terrific one. Remember that these lists are fluid and can change, so check back often.

Educate Yourself on the History of Activism in the LGBTQIA+ Community

Getting to know the history of LGBTQIA+ activism is an empowering act in becoming an ally, as well as honoring the effort and sacrifices of those who have come before. It’s important to appreciate how far we have come in the struggle for equality to fully understand how far we have left to go. A great place to start is Stonewall.org. Take this even further by researching what the issues are that are affecting the community, find ones that resonate with you, and take action.

Get Involved and Show Your Support

Participate in a Pride rally or parade; write letters to legislators; listen, affirm, and support; and volunteer your time to a LGBTQIA+ cause nationally. For example, look into opportunities with the Human Rights Campaign or The Trevor Project, or locally at an AIDS/HIV clinic or organization near you that supports local LGBTQIA youth with social events, education, and access to other resources.

Stand Up for What You Believe In

One voice can cause many ripples in the wave of discrimination. It might feel uncomfortable and maybe scary eachtime we stand up for a cause, but it is an integral part of being an ally. Share your feelings, educate others, don’t invalidate them but still use change language. Make sure you feel comfortable with the issues you are an ally for, but don’t be afraid to ask questions. Let those with bigoted ideas know that you do not condone or tolerate such beliefs. Take to social media and make what you believe in known.